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Vedakathryn
Vedakathryn
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Joined: 2004/05/28
United States
2005/03/25, 10:35 AM
No secret, just some cold hard facts....

Not trying to be evil here, but while I have been dealing with this upper respitory illness, of which two people at work developed pnemonia from and the others like myself are going on their fouth week of it, I decided I wanted to post something that has been bugging me....

I have begun to understand some things I as worked very hard to fight temptations while not being able to work out, something I felt was very important as if I could not exercise, I couldn't allow this illness to give me the excuse to give up and pork out.

It seems that there are so many, myself included for a very long time, that are over weight that SAY they want to do something but DON'T...oh, there is the "I won't eat that cookie today" but then go and eat a box the following day. I have gotten VERY determined to change my lifestyle, though with my thyroid void and being in my forties, it has proven to be much more difficult than when I was a young'in, I have come to terms with the fact that as slow as it is, I won't quit, I won't use anything to deter me again and I won't make excuses, even though something like a illness is a bummer it isn't any reason to eat bad like I used to think it was ("Oh heck, I can't work out, so I might as well forget it, I'll be fat forever", attitude).

What I see from my past mistakes and what I see in many others is that there is such a lack of committment. I see so clearly now how I would start/stop, start/stop goals, promises, and was so untrue to myself. I "used" every difficulty thrown at me to throw in the towel. Grant it, I am a very, very busy person with committments to many people, organizations and family, but that does NOT give me the excuse to EAT BAD! I have learned, and trust me, it isn't due to this magic WILLPOWER that suddenly graced me, that I HAVE OTHER CHOICES and to USE THEM! When I set a goal, which I do in smaller intervals to avoid letting myself down, I FINISH the goal. For instance, the two week challenge, I have stuck to what I said, though I still give myself a cheat "day" (which does not include my challenge item) but that is not a day to PORK OUT, it is a day to allow myself something that I like but have cut out of my daily habits AND I eat just a taste, for example, if I chose to have some chips, I eat ones with no trans fat and only a few, the serving size suggested NOT until the bag is gone.

Now, I'm NOT bragging about a darn thing as I don't even deserve that, but I really wish others would look closely at WHY they are not able to even complete a daily goal...WHY do you choose to eat a piece of cake when you can have a delicious piece of chicken? WHY do you shove the chocolate in your mouth before even allowing yourself to think rather than remember that THIS IS WHAT MAKES ME FAT?! I ask this because I asked myself this, I finally have reached a point that I understand that I was my enemy! My choices are mine and my failure to chose the right things are my choices. Why did I ever think; "oohhh, I just can't do without my pop", that is such BS! It is just FOOD FOOD FOOD, not a certificate to happiness!

When you are ready to go a day, then a week, then two weeks, then a month, then a few months, then a year then a lifetime to make healthy changes - then make that committment. If you are not, don't BS yourself, just keep making excuses when life sucks or life is hard or life doesn't give you enough time to breathe let alone exercise because you are NOT ready, if you can't go one day without chocolate or you'll DIE, then you are not ready, when you keep saying that your too tired to cook and drive through the grease garages instead, you are not ready. I was not ready for a long time and kept fooling myself thinking I was, I was just full of BS, I meant well, but I wasn't committed to a darn thing. I thought that it was such a fricken SACRAFICE to NOT eat cookies, fast food, etc., and that is so ridiculous yet it was a 13 year habit.

Dig deep people...and then deeper...

Are you ready or are you just BS'in yourself? Can you go even a day without eating crap? Can you commit, promise and be true to yourself or deep down do you know that you are not ready? Then the next question is...WHEN are you going to be ready? Next week after the fair, after the wedding, after the dinner party, after work slows, after the kids grow, after THIS cookie, THIS pop, THIS Big Mac...AFTER your arteries are clogged with all that grease, after you get diabetes and they start taking your toes, after you have a heart attack, after you suffer a blood clot, after you DIE - is that what you are waiting for?

I am sorry if this sounds like a negative post, but I mean it to be entirely positive, I mean it to let you know that there MAY NOT BE A TOMORROW but THERE IS A TODAY and what you do TODAY will influence whether there will be a TOMORROW!

I have a hell of a long way to go, but somewhere along the line I woke up, somewhere I made a committment I will not falter on, but if I screw up along the way it IS my fault, but I will do something to fix it not something to fail myself.

So......are you hiding from the truth? Are you committing yourself to something and then quietly disappearing from those that know you have made a promise to yourself? Are you NOT committing at all?

It is so sad that I have wasted so much time, made so many bad choices - but like you, I am HERE now and I still have the chance to make the changes and I have made some great strides, but I have to keep making those changes, keep making those strides and SO DO YOU - if you are ready. If your not, when will you be and will it be too late for you then?

Your choice...I hope you make the right one and I hope and pray that I never allow myself to BS my way through life again.

Hugs and hope,

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Veda
MISERY IS OPTIONAL
***When you are up to your ears in trouble, try using the part that is not submerged.
***The difference between a dream and a goal is a plan.

HAVE A GREAT DAY!
7707mutt
7707mutt
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2005/03/25, 12:08 PM
Great Post!

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nicolesmom
nicolesmom
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2005/03/26, 05:33 PM
How can I possibly eat the Girl Scout thin mint cookies that were delivered today after reading this post? There are now two boxes of cookies in my garbage can. On behalf of my hips and thighs,thank you, for your great timing on this post.:big_smile:
Vedakathryn
Vedakathryn
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United States
2005/03/28, 09:30 AM
Thank you, Mutt, I meant every word....

Nicolesmom, GOOD FOR YOU - I am just sorry you paid for them first, lol! Another thought is, if you HAVE to buy something to support kids, buy it and immediately give it back to them! Just give the money and let them keep the food! Hope you keep coming back to FT!!

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Veda
MISERY IS OPTIONAL
***When you are up to your ears in trouble, try using the part that is not submerged.
***The difference between a dream and a goal is a plan.

HAVE A GREAT DAY!
moreandless
moreandless
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Joined: 2005/04/02
Canada
2005/04/02, 10:10 PM
well said,just as i was looking for some awnsers you asked me the question that lead to the right one.and yes we are all one excuse away from the end becuase there will always be one more excuse.......just to let you know i was snacky and thought about the kids easter chocolate above my head in the cupboard and said well it wont hurt i am starting my routine on monday why not ,,,,,i got have way down your post and had two bananas and an apple instead...

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small steps forwad will get you closer to your goals than big excuses standing still........
Vedakathryn
Vedakathryn
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Joined: 2004/05/28
United States
2005/04/05, 02:28 PM
Awesome, you made the right choice! That is what it is all about, choices and whether we chose to eat to be fat and unhealthy or whether we chose to be healthy! Glad to hear you did the right thing!!

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Veda
MISERY IS OPTIONAL
***When you are up to your ears in trouble, try using the part that is not submerged.
***The difference between a dream and a goal is a plan.

HAVE A GREAT DAY!
cuteygurl
cuteygurl
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Joined: 2004/10/29
United States
2005/04/06, 02:12 PM
Wow...sorry I haven't been around latley but that post really is deep. You are exactly right. I have made a lot of bad choices which is why I am so heavy but I am changing that. I have lost 17 lbs since january. Yeah Me!
Vedakathryn
Vedakathryn
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Joined: 2004/05/28
United States
2005/04/07, 11:39 AM
YEAH YOU! Excellent, haven't seen you for a while, but good to hear that you are having positive weight losses!! :) Keep it up!! :)

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Veda
MISERY IS OPTIONAL
***When you are up to your ears in trouble, try using the part that is not submerged.
***The difference between a dream and a goal is a plan.

HAVE A GREAT DAY!
Reddy
Reddy
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Joined: 2003/09/11
United States
2005/04/07, 12:56 PM
That is a very good post - can I send it to a friend??

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Reddy

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Vedakathryn
Vedakathryn
Posts: 1,585
Joined: 2004/05/28
United States
2005/04/11, 04:53 PM
Sure you can! If it can get even one person to make some healthy changes, I would be estatic!

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Veda
MISERY IS OPTIONAL
***When you are up to your ears in trouble, try using the part that is not submerged.
***The difference between a dream and a goal is a plan.

HAVE A GREAT DAY!
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