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2003/04/24, 05:06 PM
Does anyone else find that once they start learning the correct way to exercise and diet, they are so annoyed with other people that they rather just not have any contact with others at all? :)
I think I'm the only one in my building at work that does not think the right way to lose weight is "gimmicks".
What is Advocare? Spelling could be off on that. Here I am in a co-workers office on the other side of the building walking her through a new type of order when I hear a group of five people talking at the door of the next office. Billy Bob says he is on Advocare and is explaining how there are a set of tablets you take for every type of food you eat to block the bad stuff and use the good stuff twice as fast and lost 15lbs in the first week. Sue Ann is saying she is on Adkins and has lost 27lbs in the first week. Jimmy Ray says he's taking some fat blocker drug and has lost 17lbs. Marsha Marsha is soooo excited about losing 7" in one week by eating only saltine crackers, vitamins, and apples. And Lou Ann says, "Why would someone want to do weight lifting and count calories and stuff and not lose but a couple pounds in several weeks?" Which is when Jimmy Ray says, "You mean like Jennifer? She'll never lose weight. She already looks pregnant all the time. Which is funny considering she's Skip's little pet project."
Skip is my boss. He is located in California. I'm in Indiana. The customer is in Minneapolis. I'm the only one in the building who reports to him, which means I also get to travel to MN frequently.
I think I'm so furious that if my boss had an office here, I'd storm in there and quit on the spot.
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~Jennifer
http://www.gwindalyn.com
If you dont stand for something, you will fall for anything.
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2003/04/24, 05:09 PM
Oh. I forgot to add...
The co-worker just looked at me and asked if I was ok. I said no, got up, walked out of her office, smiled at all of them, and said, "How are you all today? Have a great afternoon." and kept walking back to my office.
Of course I've also changed the names. :)
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~Jennifer
http://www.gwindalyn.com
If you dont stand for something, you will fall for anything.
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2003/04/24, 05:11 PM
Well looks like Mutt has to take a road trip and educate these idiots on the benefits of weiglifting (cracking knucles, and flexing neck). jen I deal with the same thing everyday. It was notuntil a few coworkers went to the gym with me that they found out what it is all about. And what I am about. Now even though I am larger they come to me for all kinds of advice. So just let it go, except the pet project thingie report that to the HR people. LOL or just go press the losers into a garbage can!
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IF YOU CAN STILL ITCH YOUR NOSE AFTER ARM DAY, GO DO ANOTHER SET!!!
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2003/04/24, 05:17 PM
Oh I know they are idgets. Backstabbing, two faced, idgets. I have no desire at all to even remotely be friendly with them. It is just so infuriating. I bet my blood pressure went up a few notches.
Typically, I expect this kind of thing from the women. No offense to any women. :) I'm one too. :p But women are usually the ones standing around gossiping, being jealous, and saying two faced hurtful things. Men typically don't get involved. But not where I work. It's the whole bunch!
It's ok. Give me 1 year. Then they will be begging me to tell them how I got so fit and in shape. And I'll just laugh and keep walking.
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~Jennifer
http://www.gwindalyn.com
If you dont stand for something, you will fall for anything.
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2003/04/24, 05:17 PM
You know, not everybody does things YOUR way but that doesn't mean it's necessarily the wrong way. Let people learn their own lessons, and don't let them bother you simply because they are doing something differently. I agree the comment was rude but no need to let them get under your skin. You only have to worry about yourself, not others. I've found that the people on this particular board can be bit irritable and closed minded towards others who haven't gotten to the point they are at, yet most of us have probably been there before.
take what you like and leave the rest
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2003/04/24, 05:18 PM
Don't say it to them but think this to yourself jenn.....
There discussion they had amogst them selves was to annoy you. What they said is impossible to do. You are doing something sensible and they see you starting to look different. Kudo's to you, and just laugh because they are full of S**t.
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We must become the change we want to see.
Ivan Montreal Canada
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2003/04/24, 05:24 PM
"I've found that the people on this particular board can be bit irritable and closed minded towards others who haven't gotten to the point they are at, yet most of us have probably been there before" ................who is closed minded here? I mean I think we all go out of our way to make sure all are welcome no matter their level......sorry if you felt differently.
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IF YOU CAN STILL ITCH YOUR NOSE AFTER ARM DAY, GO DO ANOTHER SET!!!
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2003/04/24, 05:25 PM
Tara -
I think maybe I did not explain correctly. I am very open minded. They can lose weight how they wish. What they do for themselves is none of my business. And what I do is none of their business either. However, this is not the first time these SAME people have made these types of comments about me directly. When I first started I was so excited that I thought I'd share my excitement. I talked to one of these people about what I was doing and got my feelings hurt by her pretty badly. She then got everyone else in one it. Since then, they have a history of this same behavior. My frustration is not at what they are doing for themselves. My frustration is at the immature, two-faced, cruel, hurtful comments directed toward me for no reason other than to be spiteful and mean. I go out of my way to NOT be a part of any group of people gossiping about others here. This is a place of business where we should all be doing what we are paid to do and working as a team regardless of our personal thoughts about each other.
And the most frustratiing part is one of them is the HR Manager, and one the VP of HR. Which leaves no one to give a formal complaint to.
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~Jennifer
http://www.gwindalyn.com
If you dont stand for something, you will fall for anything.
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2003/04/24, 05:26 PM
I have to say now knowing and being a lot more knowledgeable then I was before about fitness sure makes me smile ;), hearing people that think they know about stuff and then tell me makes me laugh, it may sound mean but when I try to tell them what's real they got annoyed! so most of the time I just nod and keep my mouth shut!
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2003/04/24, 05:33 PM
Sorry to hear about the troubles you are having at work. I guess I've just heard a few comments on here about how wrong everyone else...how funny it is...how annoying it is, how they're "idiots"...etc etc.
I choose not to act in such a way.. but probably shouldn't have told my opinion about these comments. Each unto his own.
I hope everything pans out for you Gwyn, just try not to take their comments to heart.
Take Care
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2003/04/24, 05:43 PM
Well Tara i do not like calling people idiots but when someone claims to loose 27 lbs in one week and has no clue about what that really means, I call them idiots. They are not smart, it is not that they do not know the right info but (and remember that i have dealt and still deal with the same types here at my work), think they know it all and choose to spout the wrong info like it is the gospel. Then make fun of someone trying to do it correctly. I am NOT saying the methods they were claiming to use are wrong, but their attitudes and comments are and that makes them idiots, in my eyes. If that offended you I am sorry! LOL but comon 27 lbs in a week....I know people on Atkins that is not likely.....
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IF YOU CAN STILL ITCH YOUR NOSE AFTER ARM DAY, GO DO ANOTHER SET!!!
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2003/04/24, 05:53 PM
Most peoples comments like those are because they are insecure\unhappy with themselves.
I'll refrain from my comments..because well Gwin knows why!
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2003/04/24, 06:00 PM
Hi noirtula...long time no see? Welcome back.
Gwen, the thing is. it's all bs like I said. If someone lost 27lbs in a week, they would be in a hospital bed! Thats all I can say.
And I agree 100% with your hubby!
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We must become the change we want to see.
Ivan Montreal Canada
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2003/04/24, 08:39 PM
Hey gwindalyn - they are jealous, no one loses 27 lbs in one week - 14 lbs of water weight.. maybe, but not likely. Oh well, in a year you will be in shape and they will be heavier than they began because they have slowed down their metabolisms by yoyo dieting and losing muscle mass, and they will be asking you for help. Just tell them politely that they look pregnant all the time and if they want adviec, pay an OBGYN.
Next time you are in MN, let me know, you could come to my studio in St Paul and workout sometime :)
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2003/04/25, 09:47 AM
Wow! Thanks for the offer for the MN workout! I would have no clue how to get to St Paul, but I'll let you know next time I'm going! I usually stay in downtown MN and use the walkways to get to the Target Corporate building or any place we go to eat. :p Great city!
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~Jennifer
http://www.gwindalyn.com
If you dont stand for something, you will fall for anything.
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2003/04/25, 10:36 AM
Jennifer,
sorry to hear about this unfortunate experience, sometimes people can be so cruel. believe me i've been a victim of that myself a few times. during this, though, remember you cannot control what others think, do or say. what i do during times like that is use it as a drive to go stronger in what i am doing, not only for myself but to show them i will succeed. you are doing an awesome job!!!! and don't let anyone else make you feel different!
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Bettia.... When you feel like giving up, take it to the limit one more time!! You will SUCEED :-)
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2003/04/25, 11:52 AM
Hello Jennifer.
LOL...let 'em think whatever they want. You know you're on the right track :o)
I agree with jxlynxli; just smile to yourself and nod <smile>
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2003/04/25, 12:50 PM
Put up your dukes and tell 'em that nothing's been wounded, but your heart, for pitying them their ignorance :o)
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2003/04/25, 01:24 PM
St Paul is only fifteen minutes from downtown MPLS. I grew up in MPLS, it is a great city. St Paul is nice, a little quieter, but we have the hockey team. Let me know if you are in MN and interested in working out, I could drop into MPLS and give you a lift, or you could bus, but the system here is pretty deplorable, you would spend most of the day switching buses, when by car it is pretty fast. (That is one of the only things I miss about NYC, their public transit is so awesome).
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2003/04/25, 06:16 PM
Hi . I agree and think it was rude of them. But you know sometimes when people comment like that it means they are jealous. You are on the right path and doing great. Just ignore them. You have lots of support here on FT. Keep your head up!
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2003/05/01, 11:29 AM
sorry to hear that your coworkers are so insensitive.
when stuff like that happens on my job, i take a diff approach. i confront them when i've had enough time to cool off and order my thoughts. the good thing about this approach is that since you know they say stuff like that all the time you really don't have to set an appt to give them a piece of your mind. of course like i said i order my thoughts 1st and have a set few things i want to get across to them. the next time you hear something offensive or hurtful... politely and cordially yet consise and to the point let them know
1. it makes me ______ when i hear _____
2. and in the future, i would appreciate it if you ______
usually you will get an apology and a stupified look of embarrassment. it may sound like an invitation for more insensitive remarks, but i've found that people will usually respect your wishes if you give them the opportunity especially people who are supposed to sensitive to this type of thing (like HR and superiors)
good luck.
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