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2004/06/21, 05:15 PM
Not sure how to handle the looks and the smartass comments at the gym. I and my partners generally just shake things off, and focus on what we are doing. But, comments are really starting to bother me. I work out with a guy that is gay, and a girl that is a lesbian. So what!!!They are wonderful people, and would give the shirt off there backs without expecting anything in return. Our workouts are generally fueled by the looks, whispers, and the every so often loud comments. Tom and Rachel tell me not to worry about it, but, it is really bothering me. How can anyone just let that crap bounce off of them time and time again?
HELP!!!Calm me down please...........
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2004/06/21, 05:17 PM
Use it as fuel for a better workout. When everyone is looking at you, slip Tom a kiss.
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2004/06/21, 05:47 PM
Now that's an idea, but I will have to find something to stand on because he is about a foot taller then me. Rachel would be the better choice, but she would Tae Kwon Do my azz if I tried to plant one on her. Tom is by far the strongest/biggest, but Rachel is the toughest!
Hmmmm, could be an opportunity to do a little acting; wonder if my wife would be up to it too.
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2004/06/21, 06:13 PM
Your lucky to have good friends to workout with. Personally, I have always found it best to just have a quiet, little chat with people that find it necessary to annoy me unnecessarily - away from others - people seem to be not so brave when they are confronted with their ignorance and I feel much better after I have confronted them, often I have found life much better as many people taken from their audience often return to normal human beings and can actually be decent people and often will apologize....b u t....sometimes they are just jerks and then you always have Hec's suggestion, but I would kiss them both! :laugh:
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MISERY IS OPTIONAL
***When you are up to your ears in trouble, try using the part that is not submerged.
***The difference between a dream and a goal is a plan.
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2004/06/21, 06:26 PM
I'm frankly surprised that those kinds of attitudes are being displayed. I don't believe in a private chat over a public insult because I'm not interested in that persons feelings. I would very clearly ask the person to speak up so we can all hear the comment, that way we get a chance to see just how big an asshole the person really is. It's easy to mean in a whisper, it's not easy to be mean out loud.
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2004/06/21, 06:29 PM
I would massage Tom's nipples as he was benching.
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2004/06/21, 06:34 PM
As always, Hec has come up with by far the best solution. Now, is that instead of kissing him, or in addition to kissing him?
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Anni
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2004/06/21, 07:09 PM
I would really give them bastards something to sneer about.
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2004/06/21, 07:10 PM
There are two gay guys that work out at my gym and I think that they want to ride the hecdarec express. I always stay away from them.
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2004/06/21, 07:14 PM
You think eveybody wants to ride the HecDaRec express.
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2004/06/21, 07:19 PM
Who asked you? Go back to making my dinner and sewing my shirts.
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2004/06/21, 07:27 PM
One, I'm not making you dinner because you are still at work.....Two, you know I had rather buy you four news ones rather than pick up a needle and thread.....so you can take that comment and shove it up your Message deleted by moderator due to unsuitable content for this board.
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2004/06/21, 07:31 PM
You gotta love her.
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2004/06/21, 07:45 PM
:laugh::laugh::laugh:
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Quoting from hecdarec:
I would massage Tom's nipples as he was benching.
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:laugh::laugh:
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2004/06/21, 11:45 PM
Pssst...I could give a rat's rear about someone else's feelings that is giving me or someone I care about a hard time, I just like to watch them go from big-man-on-the-totum-pole to weasel in front of me when confronted with their ignorance - but Anni's way works too, one way or the other, I believe in putting one in one's place. I do believe there are times to say something and times to just ignore, just like I tell my kids if a bully is harrassing them, don't let them know they are getting to you, it only makes it worse. Each situation is different and small people make small noises.
What I probably should of posted was...only you can determine what needs to be done as we are all different. My husband, he would probably just leave and never come back...my 20 yo child would probably chase 'em around the room and me, I always call 'em on it, one way or another without letting them know they are getting my goat. I prefer the kill them with kindness route, love thine enemy and such...once had a neighborhood guy that would flip me off everytime he saw me because his dog killed my dog (???), so I would just blow him a kiss each time he flew the bird at me - he stopped flipping me off and just was too wierded out to look at me anymore!
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MISERY IS OPTIONAL
***When you are up to your ears in trouble, try using the part that is not submerged.
***The difference between a dream and a goal is a plan.
HAVE A GREAT DAY!
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2004/06/21, 11:49 PM
Veda you gave some sound advice. Honestly I would respond with anger, and I probably should get looked at for that.
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2004/06/22, 12:43 AM
Hec, I think there is medication for that! :angry:
Just messin' with ya!
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MISERY IS OPTIONAL
***When you are up to your ears in trouble, try using the part that is not submerged.
***The difference between a dream and a goal is a plan.
HAVE A GREAT DAY!
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2004/06/22, 09:07 AM
Wow, fryer, that is something in this day and age.
Have you talked to gym management - that is harassment and you shouldn't have to tolerate it at a gym you pay to work out at.
Obviously these guys' masculinity is threatened by someone who is not like them, how sad. They live in a tiny little world and will miss out on some of the most ineteresting people and experiences because of it.
Pity them if you can, fight them if you are a scrapper.
I guess if it were interfering with my workout I would have some choice words with them, in the middle of the gym. Veda is right, they usually squirm when you call them on it.
Are you here in the midwest?
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Building muscle and might builds strong minds and character. Respect and humility come from lifting weights and feeding yourself with care. And from these distinguished qualities a great nation of people is built, by God. (Of course the God part is your choice, friend.)\\" Dave Draper
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2004/06/22, 10:21 AM
WOW! Thanks to all! Lots of advice, and lots of personal feelings. Actually; my wife and I paired up with Tom and Rachel in a last minute 4 person best ball challenge. Tom and Rachels partners backed out 2 hours before the tee time. We had a great time, and discussed the attitudes of a certain click at the gym. Gym management will be notified, and the people will be confronted the next time it happens; by Tom, Rachel, and Myself. Like I said, I usually let certain crap bounce off of me, but when it happens time and time again, it really gets irritating. I am suppose to meet the both of them today at lunch. I think that the eliptical is calling me; don't think I can handle the leg workout after double splitting, and golfing yesterday. Thanks again for all the input!
Amy, I am from the Midwest, a little over 450 miles from ya. Have visited your city/state, even went to your State Fair. I am still recovering from cheese curds and the Lienies. My wife and I had some great friends that lived in Woodbury. They have since moved back to Illinois.
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2004/06/22, 10:29 AM
Hec; I haven't hit that little white ball since last fall. Last night proved that I have to much L.O.F.T.. Lack Of F...ing Talent! My wife and I helped with the putting. Freakin magnet in the sand for me! I did however, hit two good balls...Stupid Rack! My wife had NO sympathy; hell, she's still laughing. Tom just sent me an email telling me to watch out where I step today! JERK!
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2004/06/22, 11:23 AM
Mike , maybe you should let your frinds call the ball on this. Like you said its bothering you more than them. After years of abuse they know how to chose their battles. I've watched my gay friends let it roll off at times and at others do the most eloquent Julia Sugarbaker chewing out I could imagine. Either way I know personally you're a good friend to have. You'll figure it out.
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2004/06/22, 11:46 AM
Thanks charlie! This is the same clickish group that made comments about me when I started lifting last year. I confronted them once on my own behalf. All it got me was more comments, but it fueled my fire. If there is only 1-2 of the guys; we have no problem, but if it is there usual 6, that's a different story. I have since talked with Tom; management has been notified, and management is going to post signs in the gym regarding harrassment, and language. I think the problem has/will be pacified in a tactful way.
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2004/06/22, 06:04 PM
alright i'm coming late to this post, but fryer i'm glad that you found a tactful solution. some of the stuff that people will do and say these days really does astound me, especially with all the progress that has been made in the acceptance of ALL people.
i must say, those guys are probably worried that rachel can 1) kick their arses, and 2) get more women than they can. the 2nd, might i add, is probably dead on with the attitudes these guys seem to be projecting. i don't know any women, or men for that matter, who would go out with someone like that.
anyway, i'm not going to get too worked up about this, but like i said, i'm glad you've found a solution. let us know what ends up happening!
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