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have you tried the online dating thing

steve010
steve010
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2005/05/17, 12:14 AM
was just wondering, lol, i am 40 , was married 18 yrs. then, its over. so, between being VERY out of touch with meeting a woman, working 2 jobs , and raising my son, i have very little time to go out , SOOOOO i tried a dating service online , holy cow , have any of you actually been through that , i met a girl, turned out to be a man playing with people. then i met a woman , the first thing she said to me on the phone is "quote" lets get this out quick , if you are not large, then we need talk no more REALLY , WHAT HAPPENED TO THE OLD FASHIONED soft hearted girls i used to hear about lol ps. do the blow up women talk nice lol
princesslodgey
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2005/05/17, 03:00 AM
You maybe need to change the online dating agency you are with. A friend of mine has had some success with online dating in the UK. It's best to use one which you pay for, as that weeds out some of the time wasters. I think it can be a very good way for busy people to meet each other.

good luck


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bigandrew
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2005/05/17, 07:44 AM
I had pretty good results....I have met people off the net...just make sure you get a pic 1st......ahhh

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2005/05/17, 08:31 AM
My friend used it with success...met several women that way......

lately more and more of those online dating sites are actually online prostituion rings....so beware....

what you have encountered is very common....so beware....before meeting the person ask for a picture and talk to her on the phone.....and best of all use reputable website....those that have been online for at least a few years and have a lot of clients....
kqstdcj963
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2005/05/20, 03:23 PM
Steve,
I was and still am in a similar situation. I used MATCH.com and found it to be pretty good. Submit a pic of your self, with the pic you will get a lot more responses. Also include your email address if you email someone. Sometimes the women who look do not belong and this way they can email you back for free! (I do not drink plus I hate the bar scene.) So far Match has worked for me. I hope this helps!
-Dave

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bb1fit
bb1fit
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2005/05/21, 02:26 PM
I actually met my wife using an online service. :)

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Artemis-75
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2005/05/21, 07:09 PM
2 of my closest girl friends are now married to the men they met on lavalife.
So it can work!

Princess is right - it may depend on the service you're using!
sbroyhill
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2005/05/21, 07:50 PM
I have had nothing but trouble meeting females online..... Horrible rotten luck. Out of the 3 I met, 3 of them lied, 3 of them used me, and 3 of them I hope to never here from again.

GRRRRRRRRR :angry::angry::angry:

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steve010
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2005/05/21, 09:36 PM
i guess it depends on my luck, thanks for the replys, i dont think i will do it anymore though, just wait until the good lord blesses me in his own time i suppose
kqstdcj963
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2005/05/22, 07:08 PM
The lord helps thoes who help them self. But, to each his own:)

-Dave

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bb1fit
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2005/05/22, 08:03 PM
I had some very wonderful experiences also before I met my wife. I did not want to marry every girl I met, but I met some that I had some great fun with, and others that were a waste of time.

It is far from a perfect thing, but if you don't frequent bars and such, where do you go? At least by contacting each other first through email and such, you feel like you know a bit about the person before meeting them. True, there are many liars out there, but how often does that happen meeting someone in person too and asking them out cold without a clue except you might like the way they look?

It really is a crap shoot either way, but I think you have some good options online. But again, when I did it the last time it was over 3 yrs. ago, and not as advertised as it is now, so not as many crackpots maybe?

Good luck to you anyway.

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Artemis-75
Artemis-75
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2005/05/23, 08:32 PM
sbroyhill - maybe it's because you refer to the gals you meets as "females"?
:surprised:

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Just kidding.
Ms. Right will find you soon enough!

e.
nexus14
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2005/05/25, 01:26 PM
I would put my 2 cents on which online dating service you use and how lucky you are. You will need these two to make it happen.

I used yahoo peronals and match.com for about 2 years(on and off) with absolutely no luck at ALL...
These sites suck big time. To me any sites that lets you post your profile free is worth nothing. They are made for women NOT for us. Yet 80-90% of the women are not even paying-members. They just go ahead and create their free profile and post a picture and wait for the qualifying guys to fall into their hands. Please don't disagree with that. It is true. Women there(a few exception excluded of course) don't want a nice guy only, they also want good looking, RICH, educated, outgoing, guys etc. etc. So if you are missing any of these, it will probably not work for you.
And not to mention those Spam profiles. About 1 out of 10 profile is a spam and directing you to those porn sites. It is unbelievable that those idiots don't even leave you alone there.

So my suggestion to you would be to go to serious online dating sites. There are just a few of them but they will work much better. And I know they are a bit pricy.
But I am sure the person you will find will not ask if you are large enough or not. (sorry didn't want to be rude here I just hate those type of girls with a passion)

Good luck

nexus14
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2005/05/25, 01:27 PM
How on earth my post displayed under someone else's name?:(:(:(
Big-E
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2005/09/24, 12:23 PM
Anyone with more input? Since 1995 I have basically been in jobs where I am the youngest by like 20yrs, all my friends are married, have kids, and no single friends. The girls I meet are very few and far between, however when I am finally introduced to someone 90% of the time we get along.. Im easy going etc, have great job/life/blah blah/no troubles. Point is unless I run them over on the highway I have no way of meeting anyone... I am ALMOST ready to try a site. Any more specific site good and bad examples?
mikencharleston
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2005/09/24, 04:48 PM
Match.com works for me but like bigandrew said, is physical appearance is important to you get a picture/ For what it's worth I met my EX-wife on there and in spite of the fact the marriage didn't work, we're best friends. Her new husband isn't really happy about that. :) I also met the lady I'm dating now on match.com. I have learned that a "petite" woman doesn't mean small. It means short and as big around as they are tall. A "few extra pounds" means... well, you get the idea, :)

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bb1fit
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2005/09/24, 08:54 PM
Well, I know I am still married and happy. Of course, there are so many of them now, I am sure abuse runs rampant. A little research and intuition will go a long ways.

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essexs
essexs
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2005/09/27, 12:34 AM
Shoot. I myself have met some crazy women online. 4 out of 7 had emotional or self-esteem issues. Not pretty.

Some aren't honest until you get them on the phone where they can't sit there and think of a response you may want to hear. But some you really don't want them to have your number. :big_smile:

Good luck
Watch out for scams(American stuck in a foreign country wants you to cash their money order and send a check)
cardio01
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2007/05/05, 09:12 AM
I've used match.com. What a waste of money. You have all these pretty women who are not even members and can't write back to you. Some of them don't live in the area anymore since their adds are so old. I rather do it the old fashion way and do the dating by seeing them and meeting them. They are real that way, not the type that they say they are (successful world travelers and bussy people). I'm sure we all have time to date if we are single.
Big-E
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2007/05/05, 12:16 PM
Since this post has come back I will update what I said back in 2005. I finally did join Match. I assumed I would go out with several, only to find that it would not work out and then I would try another. Well, they kept working out - all very fun, beautiful, high quality, interesting and successful. Before I knew it I was so busy I could not see straight. It almost got to the point I was turning someone down every day. I was honest with all of them, got to know them, let the ones that were least my favorites go, and filled the gaps with new ones. Basically shopped, until BAM! I found one that I had no doubt was worth telling the others I was off the market. After a little more than a year of dating we got engaged and are to be married just over the 2 year mark. I am 34 and have never wanted to marry anyone I have dated, this one was a no-doubter from the 1st day and has just gotten better every day since. I had nothing but a great experience on Match. Just meet the people, get to know them, take it easy. Sure I had plenty of wacko's writing, like I said take it easy until you get to know them. Sure I would rather have met people 'the old fashioned way' but my work and life just did not allow that to happen. Good luck!
conan_0822
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2007/05/05, 12:25 PM
cardio1, do you wear that spandex on your dates?? That could be the problem :)
amyksmith76
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2007/05/24, 02:27 PM
Congratulations big-e! Because I am happily married with 2 children, I will not be inappropriate and say that I didn't understand why you were having trouble to begin with based on your photos. ;) Oh, bad, bad married woman!!! Just joking around. Congratulations on upcoming wedding.
2007/05/25, 07:40 AM
Well I met my husband on Lavalife and my sister and her husband met online as well. I figure there are just as many hit-or-misses in the online dating world as there are in other ones. I had more success dating online. Its nice because you can get to know someone a bit before you meet, and you can easily weed out the ones you don't see anything happening with. And congrats to you big-e, weddings are lots of fun. We got married in Hawaii and it was the best wedding i've ever been to. So i'm a bit biased, but hey, its true :) It was also quite cost effective.... lots of pics to share if you are interested. Good luck!!
flyonthewall
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2007/05/25, 09:34 AM
How did I miss this post Big-E, I wondered where you had gotten too! Huge Congratulations..she's a lucky girl. Hope everything works out for you:big_smile::big_smile:

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k-ok
k-ok
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2007/05/25, 01:07 PM
Twenty-five years ago, there was no Online. Clothes line, party line (wait a minute, those lines were before my time).:laugh:
Big-E
Big-E
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2007/05/26, 10:59 AM
Amy,
Thanks for the compliments, they are always welcome! I was beginning to wonder, but really, my life was nothing but school, work, try to sleep. I am in the I/T field (no/few females), all my friends are married and only have married friends, my hobbies (racing) are not full of females either. I should have joined a site a LONG LONG time ago.

Mcoutu,
Thanks for the congrats! Actually my honeymoon will be in Hawaii so please send pics and ideas of your fav to-do's on the islands! We are going in Oct.

Fly,
I never left :) Just have not posted much I guess. I am here weekly to read at least print my next week's workout. Thanks for the congrats!