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2002/09/30, 07:58 PM
I would really like my girlfriend to start working out, but I need advice on how to tell her without making it sound like I'm saying she's fat. Don't get me wrong. There is still a considerable amount of lust when I look at her, but she could stand to lose a few pounds. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Mike Wagner
*Music is the soul of society*
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2002/09/30, 08:10 PM
This could not only relate in a girlfriend/boyfriend manner but everywhere also. When I grow up I want to become a personal trainer specialized to influence a healthy life of children, (do to obesity and stress etc)
Now of course, its deffinitly not good to walk up someone and say "Your fat, so lets get ta work baby!"....that aint gonna cut it. Or even, "Honey, I noticed your waste line is getting a bit bigger, any reasons why?" Thats not gonna do it either. Telling her anything about that will rudely embarrass her greatly.
But this doesnt mean that you can't communicate with her and tell her how you feel. Just because it's not a good idea to tell her verbally doesnt meen that you can't show her how you feel at all.
Use "Body Language" Set an example for her. Continue doing good and keeping up with your own body. Surely, even if you do or don't mention it, your girlfriend is gonna know that you greatly improved the shape of your body sooner or later.
Your supposed to be an image of your girlfriend, or wife. First feel great about yourself, so u can put yourself in the mirror and shine it back to her. If she notices your abs getting alot tighter and firmer she will be like "Wow, you got some great abs! What diet/ program did you follow?" Or something like that. Let her get interesed in the idea that its good to improve her shape without breaking it all down to her.
So just keep setting an example and imrpove your shape, and i bet in a matter of no time, she will be interested in herself improving as well, without you telling her;)
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Tiffany Der #10
"You have to make it through the rain in order to see the Rainbow........."
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2002/09/30, 11:14 PM
Thanks for the advice Tiffany. Sounds good to me.
How did you get so wise at your age?
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Mike Wagner
*Music is the soul of society*
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2002/10/01, 02:02 AM
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Quoting from wagnerzx2:
How did you get so wise at your age?
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Lol she's our little genius in here!!!! (o;
About your girlfriend, try making her read some fitness magazines. No not the Muscle and Fitness ones, but some books about BEGINNING to train (those old trendy kinda "Fonda" books!!) Books with women like HER who started to weight train.....
Try searching on the net and you might find some good ones.
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- Nina :o) Les Victoires éternelles sont celles du coeur.
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2002/10/01, 01:31 PM
I've been trying to do the same thing with my husband. I have told how it would be fun to be able to share workouts, support each other, etc. We work separate shifts however and he never gets enough sleep and keeps saying, when the kids are in school (they are 2 & 3.5). But I feel exactly what Tiffany stated. If he starts seeing the improvements I make, maybe he'll get more interested. I'm getting stronger, but it's not showing as quickly as I'd like due to my diet, but I keep at it.
Great advice Tiffany!
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'Nobody trips over mountains. It is the small pebble that causes you to stumble. Pass all the pebbles in your path and you will find you have crossed the mountain.' - Anonymous
Goal--To be the kind of person my dogs think I am.
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2002/10/02, 10:46 AM
My two cents:
I never pushed my husband to workout but when he saw I was getting results and feeling motivated, enthusiastic and determined it actually inspired him to workout with me.
Might I suggest inviting her a game of raquetball or squash with you? Do some sort of sport you can do together or ask her if she'd like to go for a jog with you.
But NEVER shove obvious hints in her face. That will backfire and will probably kill her self-esteem. Being female the first thing I would assume is that my significant other thinks I'm overweight.
I would just try to peak her interest with whatever you're doing.
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2002/10/02, 07:00 PM
Maybe some "incentives" will help. I know till my wife had a goal, it was extremely hard on her to do this. She finally found the BFL, and that was the goal she needed. Now she does this and is a bodybuilder! I don't know where you stand in your fitness, but maybe you could even do it together! It really makes for a great bonding area for you both, should bring you closer than ever. Not too many couples have such common goals. If you train together, you can do your diet together, gets much easier when it comes to the menu. Hope this helps some. Just a suggestion.
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