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2005/02/04, 09:56 AM
Seems a lot of people have been asking for a kick in the pants lately.
Here is the long and short of it:
Only you can make yourself eat right.
Only you can make yourself workout. Even if you hire a trainer - you still have to make it to your sessions and do the work at home.
Only you can make excuses about time, sleep schedules, work schedules, etc. I bet you find time to watch TV or Movies, time to post on freetrainers, time to loaf on the couch. If you honestly think you don't have any time - make a list of everything you do, every minute, for two days. i bet there are some lower priority things being done when you could be exercising.
No one is forcing you to exercise, or to eat healthy. If you are striving for better health, a better quality of life, or a better physique than you have chosen this path. Quit whining. Get moving. Have a good attitude about it.It will get easier, but it is a battle of determination and consistency.
The occasional cheat or slip-up or rest day isn't the end of the world. Look at your routine and see if you are being too strict or overtraining, or if maybe you have some emotional issue you don't want to face and you are babying yourself with food.
This is your life, take responsability for it and where you want it to go.
As bb1fit has posted before - it is this simple:
a) workout
b) eat healthy foods to fuel your body
c) repeat.
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Get er done
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2005/02/04, 10:07 AM
good post
I often have to kick my butt to the gym
its just to easy saying, I am tired
Raj
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2005/02/04, 12:10 PM
I completely agree that you are the only one who can make those kinds of choices for yourself. I think though that when the majority of us come here asking for a "kick in the pants" what we are really looking for is encouragement and support, not someone actually telling us "this is what you need to do so do it" If you are coming from a lifestyle of not exersizing and eating poorly, getting encouraging words and a sense of not being on your own really helps keep you going, especially when you are stuggling and/or not seeing the results you think you should.
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2005/02/04, 12:27 PM
But when it comes down to it, it is just you and the weight room. If you lost your computer ontacts and all of your friends deserted you and your life went down the crapper - would you be able to motivate yourself? You have to be your own support, is what I am saying.
You may think i don't know what it is like - but I was 220 pounds and I was in terrible shape, and i didn't really have a support system, just me and my determination not to live that way anymore.
I made seperate meals for my husband because he refused to eat healthy with me, i got up and went to the gym at 5AM because it was the only time that my husband was home with my daughter (I had to be sure to get back by 6:30 so he could leave for work).
I borrowed every book and video from the library on nutrition and fitness and working out, and educated myself.
In the end it really does come down to 'This is the right choice to get you to your destination.'
Sometimes encouragement can turn into a false sense that it is okay to not be disciplined and okay to slack off and you find yourself turning more and more to the 'support' system to feel less guilty about not working out or eating right.
i am sorry if it offends or angers people, but really there is one answer. You either do it, or you don't.
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2005/02/04, 01:00 PM
Doesn't offend or anger at all, because it is the truth that it is completely up to you whether or not you do it. I just didn't want to group everyone that asks for support, or needs some advice or sympathy due to bad things(Like Veda falling and literally not being able to work out) into a category of people who simply want someone to tell them "it's ok" when they don't do whats best for themselves.
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2005/02/06, 11:51 AM
Asimmer, thanks for posting this. It's up to me. It's up to me. It's up to me.
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2005/02/06, 07:58 PM
Falling and not being able to workout isn't an excuse, it is a valid reason and deserves some sympathy. But there is a difference between being smart enough to know when not to train and just being undisciplined and then coming and asking for support for your behavior.
I am not singling anyone out.
I just think sometimes our society wants us to tell everyone that no matter what they do or don't do 'they are okay' and 'special'. We live in an entitlement society - for chrissakes, people are sueing fastfood restaurants for 'making' them fat. No personal responsability.
If you really want to change you either have to have an epiphanie one day and realize that it is in your control or you have to have someone tell you that it is all in your control. You are fat. Get over it and do what you know you need to do to change it if you don't like it.
Support is good, but support is very different than enabling.
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Quoting from CristalBelle:
Doesn't offend or anger at all, because it is the truth that it is completely up to you whether or not you do it. I just didn't want to group everyone that asks for support, or needs some advice or sympathy due to bad things(Like Veda falling and literally not being able to work out) into a category of people who simply want someone to tell them "it's ok" when they don't do whats best for themselves.
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Spoon feeding in the long run teaches us nothing but the shape of the spoon.
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2005/02/07, 03:32 PM
I agree also, and I have even posted on this ("Motivation") and I believe that the majority of us that use that phrase are just looking for a few words of encouragement and support, nothing more, at least that is what I feel when I post it and I know others that don't expect anything else, afterall, that is one of the particulars of this forum and our Monday's posts, to give one another a smile, a shoulder and a kind word and even "the boot" because knowing we are all struggling with our day to day decisions helps get through, especially those of us that have no one else for support, FT is wonderful. But, no, we have to take responsibility for our actions in everything we do, including shoving 20 pieces of chocolate into our mouths and downing it with two glasses of pop, etc., but we can post it so it is "out there" for all to see and that helps some to take responsibility for it as many of us have a PROBLEM with eating and HIDE our actions, here at least we can announce them and know that others have done the same and hopefully others will share their experience and what they have done to help them get over it.
For instance when I did fall, I did ask for opinions as I hadn't ever had such a terrible fall, but I also listened to my own body and I went and worked out and continue to do so.
I think you have brought up some very good points and there are people that are always finding excuses and always will - and there are those that need a bit of understanding from time to time - and then there are those, like yourself, that stand strong, have learned from their own discipline and determination how to succeed, and from taking responsibility - that we can learn from, thank goodness, because by being an inspiration we can all see we can accomplish our goals, too, we just have to decide that is what we want for ourselves and DO IT so we, too, can become an inspiration to others.
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Veda
MISERY IS OPTIONAL
***When you are up to your ears in trouble, try using the part that is not submerged.
***The difference between a dream and a goal is a plan.
HAVE A GREAT DAY!
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