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marcar Posts: 2 Joined: 2004/06/17	2004/06/17, 07:47 AM Hi all, new here and wondering if you could help me figure something out. My husband hates that I spend so much time at the gym. I don't like for him to go with me because, well, he always gets jealous when I talk to all my friends there (mostly men) and gets mad because of the "reveling" gym clothes he says I wear. How can I get him to appreciate that I am a social person and like going to the gym every day?
Anni313 Posts: 1,790 Joined: 2004/03/04	2004/06/17, 08:13 AM Most people I know don't go to the gym for the social aspect, they workout and they leave. How much time do you spend at the gym each day and what do you wear? Do you try to include your husband when you are at the gym? -------------- Anni ******* Hard work must have killed somebody
asimmer Posts: 8,201 Joined: 2003/01/07	2004/06/17, 09:38 AM Make him part of the socailizing. Obviously he feels left out. It will be less threatening to him if you introduce him to your male friends and they are aware that he is your husband. If you aren't willing to do that, you need to reexamine why you go there and what the pay-off is of not telling them you are amrried. Need some attention? Tell your husband. -------------- If you fall down seven times, get up eight. \"Inscribe this on the charm that dangles from your navel, girls. Guys, tattoo this on your biceps: Building muscle and might builds strong minds and character. Respect and humility come from lifting weights and feeding yourself with care. And from these distinguished qualities a great nation of people is built, by God. (Of course the God part is your choice, friend.)\" Dave Draper
dfly411 Posts: 1,352 Joined: 2004/03/04	2004/06/17, 09:44 AM I agree that he is probably feeling left out. Sounds to me that this is more about the relationship than the fitness...going to the gym is usually about fitness, not the clothing or the atmosphere. Appreciation is subjective. You can't make it happen.
hecdarec Posts: 2,457 Joined: 2003/12/16	2004/06/18, 07:50 AM If I were your husband I wouldn't approve of you going to the gym in revealing clothes and talking to all of your male friends. Marcar you need to be honest with yourself before posting on these boards. We don't pull punches. -------------- Message deleted by moderator due to unsuitable content for this board.
marcar Posts: 2 Joined: 2004/06/17	2004/06/18, 07:19 AM Gyms ARE social places, at least mine is. I love it because I can get a good workout and still be around the guys I like. We are all in there for the same reasons and we all think alike, so why not? I wasn't really looking for sugestions on why I should be going to the gym, just how to make my husband see why I go so much. Dfly411, your husband goes with you, how come he doesn't make a big deal about it?
dfly411 Posts: 1,352 Joined: 2004/03/04	2004/06/18, 07:29 AM I think your husband sees clearly why you like to go and therein lies your problem. Apparently, he has a problem with it. As far as my husband is concerned, he works out at a different time entirely, so we do not go together. As to him making a big deal about it...well, you should ask him what his feelings would be if he knew I was going in hot pants and tanks, spending additional time to talk to the "guys". No offense Marcar, but you're coming off badly here. If you seek suggestions on relations with your husband and not on weight trainning, maybe you should repost in the forum provided for this topic. If you seek to have us tell you want to hear, you are in the wrong place all together. Best of luck, Julienne
Anni313 Posts: 1,790 Joined: 2004/03/04	2004/06/18, 07:29 AM I think your husband sees very clearly that you go to the gym to hang out with other men, you said so yourself. I don't think you can make him like that. -------------- Anni ******* Hard work must have killed somebody