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JoshuaTheGreat
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2002/03/05, 11:58 AM
I have a few problems that I hope some people on this board may be able to give me some soothing words on...I am going to write them in a list format.-I was a very chubby kid as a child, and at times was made fun of. -I am now 21 years old 5'8" 130 but when I look in the mirror I will always see my figure as a chubby person who can always improve. -Despite people saying I need to "put on weight" or "you look good" I always feel like I need to be excercising. I go to the gym 6 days a week and at night I always end up doing some time of excersice because if I sit and relax I feel like I am just going to get fat. -I eat healthy, but not super healthy. I guess my main problem in eating is I start and don't like to stop until I am full. Sometimes I feel bad after eating an apple and 4 baby carrots and a rice cake because that is too much to be eating between meals. If anyone can identify with these problems please reply, or if you have some thoughts that might help me please reply as well. |
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rpacheco
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2002/03/05, 02:32 PM
Joshua, first of all, at 5'8" 130, you're as skinny as a stick! Even at 5'7", I weigh 160...and I'm a hardgainer!Second, you don't eat until you're full. Instead, eat 5-7 small meals a day. You'll find that when you eat this many times, you'll always feel full! Third, hopefully you're on the mass program so that you can add some muscle weight. Good luck! -------------- **_Robert_** |
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roni0906
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2002/03/05, 08:01 PM
I can understand that once you have been picked on for something so long that you always tend to worry. As Robert sais, you are very skinny. My husband is 5'8" and he weighs about 160 and I think that he looks pretty good. It obviously sounds like a big problem and may be something that will need consultation by a professional so that you don't run into unhealthy problems. I wish all that we had to say was you're skinny, but it doesn't always work. You need to find something to make you happy within. Hope this site will give you the confidence you need. If you sign up for the mass program, the muscle definition may be all you need.-------------- Lisa |
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ltroisi
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2002/03/05, 08:53 PM
Put in your profile please! We are assuming you are male, is that correct?-------------- Your presence is marked by your giving, not by what you gain........Leslie |
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Philia2
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2002/03/06, 02:51 AM
Write down everything you eat. Make a plan for your diet, 6 meals a day and then stick to the amount of food you have to eat.-------------- - Nina :o) La vie est toujours aussi belle..... |
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ltroisi
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2002/03/06, 10:30 PM
I can identify with how you are feeling.I do not think you are alone in this. Many of us deal with the same feeling. We view ourselves differently than others do. In reality we can be too tough on ourselves! I have delt with this since my teenage years as I tend to be a perfectionist. I have to be careful not to become obseessive about diet and exercise. I actually got rid of my bathroom scales for several years because my mood was based on my weight that morning and night!! It can become a dangerous practice! I now have scales and weight myself a couple times a month. Not daily anymore.Diet and exercise should bring balance to your life.It sounds like it my be an issue that is starting to concern you. Thats good, you are paying attention! And btw it IS ok to eat until you are full! Its ok to eat apples, carrots and rice cakes between meals. Its ok to work out at night... as long as its in balance with everything else you do. When you forsake relationships and other activities because you cannot miss a work out then be concerned!It is good that you can list the problems you are having. It show that you are open for ideas and council from others.Do you have someone you can go to and talk openly with? Maybe a counselor at school or church? How about a brother or sister you are close too? Talking about your feeling is great therapy!!! let us hear back from you....Leslie -------------- Your presence is marked by your giving, not by what you gain........Leslie |
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quads123
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2002/03/07, 03:24 PM
Both my sisters have my mother’s genetics: they’re 5’ tall and maybe 100 pounds soaking wet; however, my brother and I inherited my father’s build. Not only am I taller and heavier set than both my sisters, I tend to be endomorphic. If I’m active, I readily gain muscle, but if I’m sedentary, I put on fat just as easily. Even at my lightest adult weight, I was still almost 30 pounds heavier than my sisters.I can’t ever remember a time when I ate normally. But things got really crazy when I started competing in judo. People told me I had a natural talent, which made me work that much harder. I was always pushing to have better technique, be faster, stronger … and lighter. I thought if I could lose enough to get into the next weight category, I’d be that much better. Funny thing is, there’s always another weight category below the one you’re in. I remember one summer when I’d get up, go for an hour long run, do chores (my parents own a dairy farm), go for another run, spend the afternoon throwing hay, then off to a 3 hour practice in 35 degree weather on an empty stomach, only to have a glass of water before crawling into bed and starting all over again the next day. I pretty much existed on egg whites, lettuce and plain rice. If I was injured, I ignored it, or taped my ankles and hopped right back on the mats. And I thought I was being “healthy.” I finally realized that something was wrong my 3rd year of uni, when my GPA slipped from a 3.85 to a 3.2, I was falling asleep in class, had zero energy and such bad PFS in both knees that it hurt to walk. So I quit judo, likely with a full-blown activity disorder and two steps away from clinical anorexia nervosa. Now, I’m 25, and completing the first year of my PhD studies. I have a bonsai tree, two fish and a cat (well, actually it’s my roomate’s cat, but I’d like to think he’s part mine too!) After quitting judo, I shifted my focus to lifting weights, which has really helped a lot. It isn’t a cure-all, but the only standards I have to meet are my own. I workout 5 days a week … the only exercise I do on my days off is a 20 min walk to the store for groceries. I also eat 6-7 small, clean meals everyday, but do occasionally bake a batch of cookies and then spend the next two days eating mostly chocolate chip cookies and drinking skim milk. And I’ve learned that’s okay. But I don’t think I’ll ever lose that sick, panicky feeling when I step on a scale and see I’ve gained weight. There are lots of people, both men and women, who can identify with your feelings, JoshuaTheGreat. They’re elite athletes (top ranked bodybuilders, included), perhaps the person sitting next to you on the bus, or maybe even the really buff dude at the gym. It took a lot of guts to write that email, and I’m very, very proud of you for doing so. Talk to somebody you trust, be that your best friend, doctor, sister, or teacher. You don’t have to go through this alone. It was the craziest headspace I’ve ever been in. And I never, ever, want to feel like that again … |
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roni0906
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2002/03/07, 07:37 PM
Wow, it sounds like you gave yourself a really good wake up call. I'm glad that things worked out for you and hopefully, Joshua you can do the same. My sisters have always been about 20-30 pounds lighter than me until I joined the Marine Corps and had to lose about 20 pounds. When my sisters had their children they gained quite a bit of weight and still have those added pounds. I am now 20-30 pounds lighter than they are even after having my baby. I swore that the effects of motherhood for my family would not stick with me. I am now trying to get my sisters into proper diet and exercise. My older sister uses dexatrim and practically starves herself. I am trying to convince her into trying some better supplements and joining a gym. It would be easier if I were home that way I could make them go to the gym. -------------- Lisa |
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Lumina20
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2002/03/14, 08:16 PM
I also used to be a chubby kid, I sometimes got teased by my peers, but often the teasing came from my pediatrician. By my second year of high school, I was at a healthy weight and stayed pretty active. I continued on this way until my second year of college, which was when everything seemed not to be going my way...except for food of course. I eventually dropped out of school and came back home to live with my parents and my brother and within a year I had gotten down to my high school size. I've gone through periods of constant activity (running 6 days a week) where I've gotten down to 110 pounds (which may not sound like a alot for a 5'3" girl like myself, but I'm convinced my mother thought I had caught something I couldn't get rid of if you know what I mean), and I've had periods of constant inactivity where I've gotten up to 160 pounds (that college period). Though I don't like to feel like I'm obsessive about working out, everytime I don't I feel like I'm going to turn into that chubby kid again. I think my point is that maybe you are not exactly happy right now, and surrounding yourself with people that care about you (like family, friends, whomever) just might help you out. I no longer panic when I gain a few or not so few pounds, because I know I've have people around me who will accept me however I look. |
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roni0906
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2002/03/14, 08:26 PM
Well, first off, I think that it was really unprofessional for your pediatrician to tease you and was *&^%#$ up on his part. It is good to have people support you with whatever you do. Glad everything is better for you know than when you were a kid.-------------- Lisa |