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2001/01/25, 11:21 AM
This is a problem I've had for a long time...
it runs in the family...the problem is that some times I go on breaking and missing up things which can go on for a long time...
what can be done to keep the temper down especially when it involved using the same force I use in the gym at home.
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2001/01/25, 12:59 PM
Just think of whats the purpose of breaking stuff and messing things up? It doesn't make you feel any better, you just have a mess to clean up and more stuff to buy to replace what you broke. So just think for a second before you react.
Rob
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2001/01/27, 10:24 PM
try ridaline
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2001/01/25, 06:28 PM
There is no sense in acting that way, what does it accomplish? Why exercise? So, you can ruin what you’re trying to build. Anger causes a lot of physical disorders. Take a half hour and look up the word “anger” on the net, you’ll find a lot of articles describing the different ways anger can hurt you and anyone that comes in contact with you. I sure hope you don’t have any children to see you act that way. Think before you react. Things aren't bad if you apply yourself properly. Try reading more often, find a family centered activity, and be more submissive to those that count.
If you don’t learn to control your anger (child like behavior) things could get carried away and you could seriously hurt yourself or even worse, someone else, which in return will put you in prison.
Take time out, breath, find a non-aggressive activity and finally think think think.
Want to know something? It is nice to live a normal anger free life. Take time and work hard at your problem if necessary purchase some self-help books to further educate yourself. Guess What? You have already taken the first step by posting that message don’t let it stop there. If you want to change then you will change. If you don’t then I’m sorry for you.
billk
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2001/02/19, 10:21 PM
I understand what your going through.I used to get like that.And all the sound logical advise in the world don't mean squat when your caught up in the passion of a rage.For me it stopped when I picked this guy up and threw him down on his head one night in a bar fight.I was the bouncer in the bar. Part time gig.I thought I killed him then he moved.Scared the s@#$ out of me. Quit that job that night. Seek professinal help before something really bad happens to u or some one u love!
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2001/01/25, 08:12 PM
Take the anger and LIFT the anger boosts test levels(Proven fact) and you can lift alot more. When you get mad go lift or go work on something that takes muscle. Works for me.
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2001/01/26, 12:55 AM
Well admitting there is a problem is the first step in recovering from that problem. Seek out an Anger Managment group in your area. These are groups (free mostly) of other people with issues about their anger. They help eachother and learn how to vent that anger in more constructive ways.
Perhaps you can call you local crises hotline and they will have a number for you to call. BEst of Luck and Cheers
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2001/01/26, 04:46 AM
thanks a lot you all...
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2001/01/26, 06:44 AM
Lay off the roids if you are using them.
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2001/02/09, 09:19 AM
i admit i have a bad temper aswell, where it can go as far as me thinkin of some real twisted thoughts (but thats only when i get real extreme). I find the best way to releive this anger is to lock myself in my room and listen to some real stress releiving music like eminem or limp bizkit, i find this a good way to vent my anger as i have been told to let it out occasionally in safe ways as you dont want to keep that sort of raw emotion inside because if you keep it inside for to long its gonna explode on the wrong person and cause some real damage to them and you.
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2005/03/13, 10:00 PM
I have struggled with this for the majority of my adult life. I learned it from my father without ever intending to.
As for your anger, when it occurs there are usually some easy to identify reasons. For me it was expectations. I expected to be treated a certain way, expected people to drive a certain way, expected lots of things that were not going to happen. I wanted control of my environment and leashed out when unable to get control. Often times you cannot stop in the middle of the rage to analyze so this will need to occur afterwards. You have to be willing to accept that the problems are not always external to you. Instead they are YOUR reaction to the external things.
Resentment is another big one, but I think it also relates to expectations. If you are living with someone that you resent (for whatever reason) it will come out in anger towards them. (Expecting them to be different in some way.)
For me Christ has helped much. No matter what you try, don't expect an immediate change. The habits that have in response to situations have been created over a long time, and these habits will take a while to remove as well.
Sometimes just expressing yourself to a friend that you can trust will act as a release valve. When I feel it coming on now I get away from everyone. I haven't thrown things in several years. My wife is the only one that sees it now, and hopefully she won't be seeing it much longer. If you want to be free of it more than anything then you can be, but it will take time and some highs and lows. Professional advice can only help you.
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2005/03/14, 01:47 AM
ahh dont let ur anger boil up inside... ud just snap one day and go on a killer rampage... :surprised:
imma prick now in real life the way i deal with my anger is just let my feelings out i dun giv a flyin stuff bout wot people think of me no more, that and the gym seems to realise my anger n stress :o but latly i been smiling at people really wierd wen i angry i think it scares them.... lmfao
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2005/03/14, 02:33 AM
anger group counseling or one on one sessions with a psychiatrist to get to the root of the problem...
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2005/03/14, 03:45 AM
psychiatrists usually have more problems themselves then the person WITH the problems.... just try narrowing down the actual cause of ur stress problems first.
get a peace of paper and write down EVERYTHING u want to do in ur life thought of then decide them in a
"things done list"
"throw out list not important"
"and a TO DO list"
thatll teach u to set goals and throw out stuff u dun need
this may help realive stress of things on top of u also mediation helps me realise stress.. and also trying new things with totally different strangers...
then to try to narrow down things that make u angry just run ur life normal and every time u get angry keep in mind and write down what it is that did that to u... then write ways why its doing it and ways to overcome it and go around it and put a positive spin on it example making a joke of something negative theres a buiness rule in marketing where it says "brag about ur weakness's" so try to narrow down where ur falling at then bring them up to par, hope this helps...
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2005/03/14, 08:48 AM
As these guys said, use your anger when lifting weights. It really helps. I lift more when angry!!
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